Articles
Short pieces on what I am asked most often. They are not a substitute for a meeting and not clinical advice.
What happens in a first session
Fifty minutes, no tests, no forms to fill in. Here is how they actually go.
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How long the work really takes
Why nobody serious gives you a number, and what can be said instead.
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When your breathing quickens for no reason
What the body is doing during a panic attack, and why precautions make it worse.
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Sleeping badly is not only tiredness
The three forms insomnia takes, and why trying hard to sleep works least of all.
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The thoughts that always return to the same point
Rumination looks like reflection, but it never reaches a conclusion. The difference can be recognised.
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Grief does not run to a calendar
The stages do not come in the order you were told, and the hardest part arrives afterwards.
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Online or in the room: what actually changes
It is not a reduced version. But three things do work differently over video.
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The voice that comments on everything you do
Harsh, precise, always available. And almost never recognised as a voice.
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Work is not the cause of everything
It is where it shows up first, and that is a different thing.
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When a couple becomes a courtroom
Two people who are both right, and neither of them feeling heard.
Writing is the first step
Tell me in your own words what this is about. I answer you myself, personally.